March 10, 2009
Stop for a Few Moments....and appreciate the moment!
(Picture from ArtofLiving.com)
I was watching an episode of one of my most favorite family television shows, “Home Improvement”, and as that show did on occasion, it would go though an event that the couple, Tim and Jill, was arguing about, only to compromise, understand and say they were sorry in the end. Then the show would end with them telling each other how much they loved each other...and dance together to a romantic song like, “When I Fall in Love”, sung by Nat King Cole. Being a musician, the first thing I thought of was that that song playing at that moment made that scene!!! Music does so much to heighten our emotions. What would the world be like without music and laughter?
This episode had a couple of older men who were friends of Tim Taylor (Tim Allen) and one of them, played perfectly by Ernest Borgnine, told Tim about appreciating each other and not to try to “understand” how each other acts all the time, but to just appreciate and love the moments that you have together, as one day they will be gone.
This episode just made me think about how we all face so many situations in our lives that we get caught up in, thinking about and worrying about. We think of our jobs and how can we become more successful in them. We think and worry about paying the bills, keeping the house clean, will our children do the right things in life, will we be able to enjoy retirement, you name it and we spend SO much of our lives worrying about these things. Currently, as I am trying to find a way to make my love of music the thing that I do from this point on in my life as a career and wonder if I will be able to earn enough income to keep our current home, I find that although I am totally enjoying each day working at my music, I still worry if it will provide for us.
Watching the older man talk about how he appreciates the time he had with his wife, who was now gone, it just made me realize how important each moment of our lives is and how we can NOT afford to waist a moment of it! The older we get, the more we realize how special each moment is and when you think about those “wonderful, special” moments with the ones we love....there is nothing else like that feeling and how blessed we are during those moments.
I guess what I am saying is... take some time each day and stop thinking about all of the crap that is going on inside your head. If you can possibly make it happen, get the person you are the closest to and tell them to stop for a moment with you and think about JUST BEING TOGETHER.... While you do that, don’t forget to play that music that is special to both of you. IT WILL MAKE IT ALL THE MORE SPECIAL!
I think about my mother who is 90 years old now and confused and living in a nursing home with only what memories she has left, if any, due to Alzheimer's Disease, and it makes me both sad and yet, so much more KNOWING that THIS moment, and those other moments when we stop and just be with the ones you love are the ONLY reasons for being here, whether it be with your spouse, your parent, your child or just a friend.
Take a few moments....TODAY....and a few EVERY DAY...and SMILE, ENJOY and REMEMBER!